It quickly became apparent that Bryan had serious mental and emotional problems and was abusive and controlling.

After finally getting rid of Bryan towards the end of 2007, he phoned me out of the clear blue tonight (March 10, 2009), pretending to be a secret admirer who has long been in love with me because I am the most wonderful woman in the world (or words to that effect)!

However, I recognized Bryan’s voice! How could I ever forget it? He wouldn’t tell me his name during the phone call and I simply ended it by thanking him for his “kind thoughts.” I sure hope I’m not going to hear from him again.

Anyway, Bryan obviously has serious issues. So I warn other women to please run in the opposite direction if they encounter him. Thank goodness I never gave him my photo or actually met him. He’s a pretty scary guy.

Lets take a walk back to roughly the Spring of 2007. “Bryan James” (is that even his real name??) found me on a website (was NOT Craigslist – haha) and told me with his first message to me that he’s 35, single, lives alone in a “big” house in downtown Toronto, works for a major record label, he thought we had a lot in common, and would I be interested in chatting with him.

Well, sure, why not, I thought. He seemed nice enough. Well-spoken and seemed intelligent, which I thought was a nice change.

Anyway, we exchange a few emails and I give him my phone number. Yes, yes I know what you’re thinking. But mind you, I have a private line which is unlisted, so I don’t mind if weirdos have that number…haha. So over the next several months we talk constantly…he even called me at work all the time. Yes, I stupidly told him where I work, so it was easy enough for him to find out my work phone number. (I swear you guys, I’m too trusting…to a fault, it seems!)

Long story short, he basically “fell in love” with me and told me such. Told me how he wants to marry me, how he wants me to have his children, how he can “save” me financially…blah, blah, blah.

And no, he never once showed me a picture of himself, never gave me his phone number…NOTHING. But I thought it wasn’t too unreasonable since he supposedly works for a major record company.

So we continue talking for a good 6-8 months at least. He keeps insisting that we meet, but I’m hesitant since he refuses to show me what he looks like, claiming he doesn’t own or have access to a camera…WTF? Yeah, okay there, bud. Anyway, I keep telling him that I don’t meet people from the internet in person without first seeing what they look like. But does he show me ANYTHING? Of course not.

So we never meet…

Okay, so fastforward to Winter, 2009. He contacts me out of the blue after not talking to me whatsoever for OVER A YEAR! Claims he’s still in love with me all these months and how he even comes into my place of business to see me when he’s feeling lonely…WHAT THE HELL??

Sad thing is, you guys, before I read your posts here…I sincerely thought he might have mad a great boyfriend. He seems so honest and caring.

Wow…

I’m awaiting another phone call from him so I can tell him off.

I’ll keep you guys updated if anything new happens.

-J.

P.S. I just wanted to mention something which I found to be amusing: Way back when we first began talking, he told me all about how he used to have model girlfriends…and basically implied that I should feel honored to have had captured his interest…

Am I allowed to swear? Because this jerk has pissed me off for the last time.

“Bryan James”, you are SCUM!!

Do NOT fall for this idiot, girls. *sigh*

On craigslist, I had had my photo and profile up, but from the beginning Bryan never sent me his photo, saying he was busy and didn’t have anything scanned, etc. I should have just let it go at that point.

But I had somehow given him the benefit of the doubt, as in his emails to me and over the phone (I had given him my number after an exchange of emails; his number was always blocked, actually), he was being “romantic” and “sensitive” and seemed intelligent, but what was so odd, among other things, was that he needed reassurance that I was already in love with him before he would try to meet me! He said he was afraid of meeting me and getting rejected, so he would postpone meeting with me. Then one weekend, he said he had to go to a game with some guys on a Friday, then when I pursued the point, he said part of the reason was that he was afraid of getting rejected, and then later revised his story and told me that part of the reason why he couldn’t meet or call that weekend was because his parents were in town. Other things in the way he communicated had struck me as off base and fishy, and that’s around the time I decided to do a bit of due diligence, and came upon your posting. When I read your posting, I saw parallels in his behaviour and what I’d observed.

Bryan James has obviously been misrepresenting himself. He had responded to my ad on craigslist, and told me that he was a senior account executive at a major record label (never a pilot), and that he’d been in Toronto for two years.

At one point, I had asked if he was emailing anyone else, and he laughed it off, then acted as if offended by the question and said this was not a game, and that I was talking to someone who was saying he was ready to marry me (!). Meanwhile, he had been harassing you up until fairly recently.

When I confronted him about the information I saw on your site (he was asking me for the link, which I did not give him), he feigned complete ignorance and said he didn’t know what I was talking about, saying, “Do you believe everything you read on the Internet?” Then he had the nerve to “suddenly” pretend he couldn’t hear me each time I repeatedly asked him what this was all about, and said my phone wasn’t working. (!!) I basically told him never to email or call me again .. and blocked his email, and blocked calls on one of my lines. But I have been still been getting many calls from him on my other line (which I’ve ignored), where he blocks his number (I still have to get a block put in place on that one — today!).

Thank you Michelle, I’m glad I saw your posting … Anyway, I hope this information helps someone else avoid all this trouble.

K.