Michelle’s Very Personal Blog

Sebastian Gabriel lives in Windsor, Ontario, but has lived in Miami, Florida, was born in Spain & lived & worked in several Latin American countries (or so he says).

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Despite all the signs that him & I weren’t compatible, I am trying really hard to give people more chances instead of just pre-judging them.

I don’t like to judge someone based on how they write an e-mail, but in his case, he wasn’t keeping the e-mail thread intact & he didn’t even know what that was & I asked him to keep it intact 2-3 times before he finally decided to ask me what it meant. That was my first sign that he likes to ignore, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt that he just missed it.

Then his subject lines weren’t clear, & in some cases he didn’t enter one in at all, but hey, I’m a nettie & a netrepreneur, so I tend to give people a break in this area even though it is really common sense & subject lines keep things nice & neat, deter one’s e-mail from being picked up by spam filters, & tells the reader why you are writing them.

Anyway, we talked for almost 3 weeks via e-mail because I was busy or not feeling well & whenever I called him (around 3 times), he wasn’t around. No biggie, we were getting to know one another via e-mail & it was clear he was anxious to talk to me on the phone.

When I did finally get him on the phone, I knew almost immediately there were going to be problems.

I’d say something & he’d totally ignore what I said & start talking about something else. I hate it when people do that, that’s like terrible communication skills.

After this went on for about 10-15 minutes, I stopped talking & of course like always, the other person expects me to pick up the conversation, so I said no, it’s not my job to do this, conversation is a 2 way street & I told him this was bothering me what he was doing.

He wanted me to ask him questions, I said no, I don’t have a list of questions, I’m just seeing if we can converse naturally.

Being knowledgeable in many areas, I can converse on almost any topic unless it’s really technical in nature like math or electronics, so if the other person can’t talk fluidly, there is a problem.

I decided to give him another shot & the conversation continued & FINALLY we found something to talk about, so we were on the phone for over an hour I think until suddenly he had to go - someone was at his door.

Ok, fine, I thought this was our time to talk since he & I had been waiting, but no biggie, he has a life, I get that.

He wrote me the day after or the day after that (can’t remember) & said he enjoyed our conversation & wanted to talk again.

I said great, whenever you want to talk, let me know.

Then he asks me for the my business websites & I had already told him what I do, so I didn’t think this was going to be an issue since he didn’t say anything.

I send them to him, & BAMM, he disappears.

The following day or the day after that I e-mail again asking if he got my last e-mail. He ignored me again & that was 6 days ago & he’s never gone that long without e-mailing me.

So Sebastian, you are going on blog warning others of how you treat women, or maybe just humans in general.

You don’t have the balls to tell me how you are feeling, instead your way of handling things is to ignore the person. I was hurt by this, not to mention it’s very disrespectful.

You can choose to act any way you wish, but when you disrespect a person by just ignoring them when they have every right to know that you are no longer interested, that is just not healthy in my opinion.

Not to mention that shows terrible relationship skills & while I wasn’t thinking long term relationship, even a friend shouldn’t do that to a friend.

I invested 3 weeks of my time talking to you & that took time out of my precious schedule. If it didn’t work out between us I would have respected you (and myself) enough to tell you, not just ignore you.

I hope one day you learn how to respect yourself, because it’s clear you don’t. If you did, you wouldn’t treat others in this way.

Adios

Michelle