Michelle’s Very Personal Blog

Curt from Chatam, Ontario
49 years old in 2010
A Leo

He contacted me on Plenty of Fish & his handle is funnycurby4u

While he seemed  nice & sincere, the fact that he didn’t read my simple profile & then gave me my keywords (this is how I screen people online on dating sites), told me it would never work.

Believe it or not, 90% of all men (& even some women) online can’t read English & are unable to follow simple instructions, OR they are too busy gawking at pictures because they don’t care about the person, they ONLY care about what they look like.

Sure look at the pic, but then the next step (logical to me) is to read the profile to see if there’s compatibility.

They skip that step & just write to the person & then expect that the person (Me) is going to take them seriously.

Anyway, this is what I wrote to Curt hoping it would end the conversation & I would answer his questions at the same time, but of course it did not. Curt had to make excuses. This is typical of people who are immature & are unable to take responsibility for their actions.

“  Hi Curt,

Thank you for responding to my ad.

Unfortunately you must not have read my profile in full b/c you didn’t give me what I asked for & that’s how I screen all respondents, by whether they can read, follow simple instructions & are sharp & on the ball overall. No offense.

So given that, I will graciously just answer your questions.

biamorous – means a person who loves either gender, nothing to do with sex although most times intimate relationships involve making love.

Polyamory you can read my personal site & learn about that.

www.sensualforyou.com/poly

I wish you all the best Curt : ) ”

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He wrote back proclaiming he had had a bad day. Don’t we all he asked me.

Clearly he wanted me to feel sorry for him, but again he didn’t give me what I asked for which meant to me that he didn’t even care about what I was talking about. I have issues with people who are lazy & don’t even bother to find out what a person is referring to. That not only shows me laziness, but also no curiosity (the spark of life), it shows me that the person doesn’t care about making things right, or they aren’t very intelligent. That what is being said slides right by them & they are clueless.

I wrote back an e-mail saying:

“Curt you still didn’t give me what I asked for so it sounds like you have no clue what I’m even talking about. Sure you can have a bad day, but 2 bad days in a row? That just doesn’t happen & if you aren’t feeling well, IMO, you shouldn’t be responding to women online b/c first impressions mean a lot.

I’m sorry, but I just can’t even start a friendship with someone who can’t read a simple profile & give the person what they asked for. I am an avid reader & I’ve been in relationships with men who don’t read books & it’s been terrible. Not only that, but I’m also an entrepreneur, so I experience a lot of triggers when people can’t follow simple instructions. I need above average people in my life. No offense, I just need like minded compatible people around me.

Also just so you know, a 3some is a swinger’s term. Swingers are NOT polyamorists. Just so you understand.

I wish you all the best in creating your reality : ) ”

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Was I straight to the point & on the negative side? Yes I was & I make no apologies for that. My profile states I’m very intelligent & if the profile sounds like Greek to them, than that is a sign they shouldn’t respond.

I’m not here to teach people how to read English & understand the English language. Maybe Curt can read, but just doesn’t understand what he’s reading. Maybe he can only read at a 4th or 6th grade level. I don’t know & I don’t care. What I want is highly intelligent people who care about the other person they are responding to – even if they don’t know them yet.

Once I got this e-mail below from Curt, I felt the need to post his responses so women (or men) can see how Curt handles not only conflict, but is unable to admit when he’s wrong. People who are serious about finding the right mate need to know how their other half handles conflict because that’s what makes or breaks a relationship.

“Hi Senualforus! Well I guess you misread me my dear!!! Maybe your not as smart as you think!!! Sorry you have such a overly high opinion of yourself. Just to let you know I probably read more than you do. I just don’t waist my time reading fictional romance novels either!!!Non- fiction and reality for me thank you very much.I not only enjoy reading but I also enjoy songwriting and poetry.No offense my dear but maybe you should learn to read between the lines every now and again and you might not loose the best thing that landed in your lap!!!I mean sheesh, can’t you tell when someone was just trying to connect with you on a similar experience? Later….. Curt!”

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So Curt expects me to read his mind when I don’t even know him yet. Again, another excuse for poor communication & for his mistakes.

Then he calls my profile a fictional novel. I guess what women say in their profile is fiction to Curt.

Then he says I think too high of myself. I guess the expectation of reading when all you can do online is read (unless it’s a video) means I think too highly of myself

That tells me that Curt’s standards are average or below average & he needs that type of woman & please understand that I don’t have a problem with people who are average or below average. They make up 75% of the earth’s population. What I have a problem with is those people contacting me & expecting me to welcome then with open arms. I’m sure Curt could have found some other women to contact, but I think he was fixated on the Polyamory part thinking he was going to get 3somes or something from me.

Then he tries to tell me he reads more than I & writes poetry. Gawd, if this is what a bookworm is like… no thanks. Probably lies.

Then he tells me he’s the best thing that could have ever happened to me. No Curt we don’t think highly of ourselves do we.

Actually he doesn’t. Anyone who would make that type of comment is actually very insecure. While I tell people I’m above average in intelligence & being intuitive because I only want those types contacting me, I don’t do it to show off. In fact I can never show off. It feels too uncomfortable for me to show off.

I would also NEVER tell someone I could have been the best thing that ever happened to them, especially if they don’t even know me & vice versa. That’s just immature talk & Curt is puffing out his chest trying to prove he’s something he’s not.

So in the end this is why I have my screening process, to weed out people like Curt because it’s also interesting to see how people who are called on their shit react back. This speaks volumes about who they are as a person.

Michelle