Michelle’s Very Personal Blog

Jake Anderson
from Murphys, California
209-728-7844
gha5575@yahoo.com
looking95247 is his Mate1 handle
gha5575 is his Yahoo handle

Jake seemed like a sweet guy at first.

He’s 50 years old & my ad on Mate1 clearly states I’m only seeking friends to start off with.

Anyway, we went back & forth around 3-5 times via e-mail when all of a sudden he started calling me arrogant, & how he doesn’t feel we can be friends.

Fine, no problem, I was shocked, but something I said must have triggered him, & if he couldn’t handle my openness, he’s right, it would never have worked.

Then he writes back a few hours or the next day to apologize.

He sounds very distraught over his ex wife, daughter, & just his life in general.

I didn’t have time to write him back, but finally a few days later I gave his e-mail my time because I don’t leave people hanging, that’s just rude & disrespectful, & I respect everyone unless they give me a reason not to.

I told him how I felt & that at this stage in his life because he doesn’t know himself well, I don’t feel it would be a good idea to even be friends. Once he started to get a handle on who he is, he could try back again.

He claimed he was the most spiritual person I would have ever met, but I knew he wasn’t because he had never used the words I use, & just the fact that he admitted he doesn’t know himself tells me he hasn’t been studying spirituality for years like I have.

Anyway, I also wanted to tell him that I hadn’t been reading his poetry (he kept sending me files), b/c I didn’t want him to think I was ignoring what he wrote me, & I didn’t want him to waste his time writing me poetry if I was never going to read it.

After years of dating online, I learned pretty quickly that most of the guys who write poetry aren’t very good.

Maybe some women like them, maybe some women just appreciate the fact that the guy tries, I’m not that type of woman. For me I like only one type of poetry, & being a writer, I prefer to read an e-mail & have someone express themselves in proper English, then to try & guess what they are getting at with poor poetry.

Maybe he was good, I have no idea, but I wasn’t going to go look because his e-mails were long & just combing through them took a lot of time.

Anyway, I wished him all the best & I thought our conversations were over.

WELL, I was wrong.

The next thing I know, he’s e-mailing me back again accusing me of being arrogant totally getting what I said wrong.

He starts spewing about all the great male poets in the world giving me examples like Shakespeare, King David, Gandhi etc.

So he thinks he’s that good.

Anyway, when it became apparent that he is quite disturbed, didn’t understand a thing I said, proceeded to take everything I said personally, I just stopped writing him.

Beware of “nice” guys, they tend to turn on you eventually, because they are just putting on a mask so you will like them.