Michelle’s Very Personal Blog

Trevor Bartlett from Burlington, Ontario
tj.bartlett@sympatico.ca

I thought Trevor & I had a nice first conversation, but I’m now thinking it might have been because I had a drink which impaired my intuition, then again, maybe it was a good first call, so when I didn’t hear from him after I wrote him to tell him I had a good time too, I was naturally kind of upset.

Finally after 5 days went by I hear from him & I said to him that if he was too busy, that’s fine, but it won’t work for me.

He said no no, it was fine, he wanted to work on any friendship we may have.

So I called him again 2 days later.

He says he didn’t realize it had been a full week.

In my opinion the conversation wasn’t as good for me. He often had no words to say when I was relaying a story that was painful & I’ve learned a long time ago that if a person has nothing to say, their communication skills & sense of feelings/empathy/sympathy are lacking.  Even if a person has no related experience, it always bothers me when someone has absolutely nothing to say.

Not that I want the person to be upset like I am, but there’s a way to be sympathetic while not getting upset.

So when he e-mailed me to tell me he enjoyed the conversation, I said it wasn’t that great for me, & I’d like to talk to him about it.

I never heard from him again.

He works at the Woodbine Race Track as a Food & Beverage manager.

Nice guy, but I did warn him that from now on I was going got put people on my blog if they couldn’t be open & honest with me.

I won’t give out his phone number here, but if you need to confirm it’s the same person, just ask.